The Vine with Joe & Katie Devine
As branches of the same divine Vine, we embrace the power of community and the guidance of faith, aiming to inspire and uplift our listeners as we collectively journey toward greater understanding and connection. Welcome to a space where vulnerability meets wisdom and where, together, we discover the beauty of being intertwined in the vine of life.
The Vine with Joe & Katie Devine
Wedding Day Highlights: What We Loved and Didn't Love about Our Wedding Day
Ever had a week of power outages, wedding nostalgia and live football thrill? This episode captures it all! After a short break, we're back on the mic, sharing laughs about the struggle of reacquainting ourselves with new recording equipment and catching up on life's peaks and pits. From Joe's incredible Ravens game experience to the recent hurricane challenges in the Carolinas, we'll take you through the emotional whirlwind of these events and the heartwarming resilience of our communities.
Join us as we navigate the rollercoaster of wedding highs and lows, offering candid reflections on what we loved and what we might have done differently. We're spilling the beans on everything from awkward seating arrangements to the hilarity of forgotten wedding favors. Plus, we dive into the meaningful traditions that made our day uniquely ours, with stories of sacred ceremonies and cultural touches that brought our families together in a celebration of love and unity.
Feel the adrenaline of game day as we recount the unforgettable atmosphere of a live football match, complete with the joy of unexpected seat upgrades and the camaraderie of high-fiving strangers. As we wrap up this episode, we reflect on our journey together—intertwined by both the thrill of victory on the field and the cherished memories of our wedding day. It's a conversation filled with laughter, love, and the many stories that bond us. Tune in for a heartfelt ride through life's challenges and triumphs.
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Hello.
Speaker 2:Hello everyone.
Speaker 1:Welcome back.
Speaker 2:It is the vine.
Speaker 1:Another day, another vine.
Speaker 2:That's right, everybody, every day. They're like look at all these vines, just another one hanging out on our wall, oh my gosh. Well, hey guys, I'm katie, I'm joe and this is the vine. We have already covered that. What? Uh, yeah, if you can't tell we're a little out of practice. Yeah, it's been I don't know probably what three or four weeks since our last we like recorded a bunch in a like a fury of yeah, excitement every day and then, uh, it's been a while, we've been busy and had a bunch of stuff going on, and so we haven't recorded in a minute.
Speaker 1:It's been a while. Yeah, we got a new computer. We're like on a new program. It's just.
Speaker 2:It's been an adjustment so if it sounds really bad, it's literally 100 katie's fault. It's been an adjustment. So if it sounds really bad, it's literally 100% Katie's fault.
Speaker 1:It's totally my fault If it sounded bad beforehand.
Speaker 2:It was either my fault or Justin's fault.
Speaker 1:But this time it's 100% on Katie.
Speaker 2:I like to think that people are rooting for me. They are. I'm rooting for you, thank you.
Speaker 1:Well, anyways, this is the part where you ask me how I'm doing.
Speaker 2:Well sometimes I want to be asked first.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. How are you Joe?
Speaker 2:I'm good and you've forgotten. It's been so long, katie.
Speaker 1:What.
Speaker 2:What was your peak and pit this week?
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, I totally forgot that we nixed the how are you to?
Speaker 2:peak and pit. I also just said you did forgot, katie did a forgot she did grammar.
Speaker 1:It's hard it is. It is really challenging oh my gosh, I you're so right, I'm so sorry okay would you like me to go instead? Yeah, can we start over?
Speaker 2:yeah, okay, all right, you go what do I go? You ask me what my peek oh, okay wow, we are really out of.
Speaker 1:I thought I thought we were like starting from the beginning, like, hey, welcome to the vine. Okay, okay, I got it, I understand. Okay, joe, what? What has been your peak and your pit of the week? Katie, thank you so much for asking. You're so welcome um.
Speaker 2:So the peak, um and we'll get to this later on in the podcast for our marriage meeting, but my peak absolutely was going to the ravens game last sunday oh, that's a good one.
Speaker 1:It was awesome that was fun wait and they won.
Speaker 2:We'll get to it later, it's, we'll get to it later, okay. Um, and then I would say my, my pit is probably so. We probably should open with this. First and foremost. Everybody, all, all of our friends and family members in the Carolinas who have been affected by the hurricane. We hope you guys are doing okay. We know it was really scary.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this will probably be out like a few months afterwards.
Speaker 2:Yes, but still just know that we're. You know it had just happened. So that's my pit is going to be just the no power and no internet, and you know but it was kind of cool to see a lot of the community come together and like I'm in a men's group and in that group chat there were so many people who were like trying to offer help to each other and like people be, hey, like I need this or I need that, Like it's just really cool to see people kind of band together like that.
Speaker 1:So yeah, humans really rally, yeah, we really do but my?
Speaker 2:I would say that's my pit yeah, I.
Speaker 1:Is it bad if I steal yours like?
Speaker 2:can I copy paste that uh, you can copy paste that, you just have to say something different about it, you can take. You can look at my answers, just change. Wait, what is it?
Speaker 1:I don't know what you're about to say.
Speaker 2:It's like you can copy my homework, just change it a little bit, or whatever oh yeah, it's just like kind of plagiarize yeah, but I can't remember. There's like a saying like just make it look a little different yeah, you know me, I'm really great, great at the sayings you are and listen, I'm the one fumbling the bag on the saying so we're both fumbling anyways pit like joe said the hurricane joe, so originally I don't okay in everyone's defense.
Speaker 1:I don't think anyone knew how how bad it was very true like so much so that, like our my work didn't even cancel that day, like we were like, oh, it'll be fine, like we're gonna continue everything as planned, just a lot for some extra time. In case you know, it's raining really bad um. So I don't think. I mean, I think had they known how bad it would have been, like they would have canceled um. But we got up that morning just trying to be normal and joe and I are so naive, like we have no power we.
Speaker 1:We woke up with no power. Like that should have been the first red flag. Like that means that trees are falling and I didn't even put that together. I'm like no power. I wonder what that means.
Speaker 1:I wonder why, and so we just tried to act super normal because, truly, we like had no idea. And then we also live in like a new build neighborhood, so like the trees are little baby trees and like you can't really tell when they're not, you know, falling over like those gigantic trees. So we really thought we'd fine and like we left with enough time to like go pick up a friend, and then it really wasn't until we were on.
Speaker 2:So we left at like what seven o'clock, yeah, and maybe at what like seven oh four, yeah, the actual timestamps are seven o'clock.
Speaker 1:we left Seven oh three. I get a message from my manager saying we're delaying start Seven oh, five05.
Speaker 2:I look at my phone and I'm like oh.
Speaker 1:Joe, like looks like we delayed and we had literally had been on the road for four minutes, and so we turn around and then in that same I mean that same road that we were driving on um, two giant trees had like fallen on power lines, and that was when, I think, it hit the both of us like oh, no, it was the first time in a long time that like I've actually been like honestly terrified I was like I don't.
Speaker 2:We were there's like a little gas station kind of near our house and I was like katie, we might we might have to be sitting at this gas station like it's the only thing that feels safe right now oh yeah, and it was so, so silly and we learned our lesson.
Speaker 1:like we should not have gone out to begin with, but um, anyways, needless to say, I don't think anybody really were was prepared for how hard it was and obviously because of that, work has been really crazy, because we're all trying to play catch up, we ended up canceling that day. So, yeah, that was a big pit, I think, for everybody.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1:But on the bright side I feel like we really lucked out, like we didn't have power all of Friday through Monday, but then we originally had tickets planned to go fly out to Maryland, baltimore, maryland.
Speaker 2:There you go, you got it. Katie was trying to put the pieces together.
Speaker 1:I was like wait, where do we go?
Speaker 2:We went to Charlotte first.
Speaker 1:We did go to Charlotte first, so Friday, like we were going to fly out Saturday. But with power being out, we were like, let's just go to Charlotte on Friday. Yeah, we kind of got really lucky. We got so lucky.
Speaker 2:With like no power and everything was like you know, we left, missed a bunch of like. The chaos afterwards went, saw the ravens win it was incredible visited a bunch of family, had a crab cake, uh, and then we came back and like, right as like, we were on the drive home and we got a text that our power was back on yeah, like an hour before we got home. Yeah, we're like that worked out really good yeah, it was.
Speaker 1:It was really really good timing um, but still, can I have a pit within my pit?
Speaker 2:yeah, that's uh okay so this is, this is um, how do I phrase this? This is like nothing compared to like all the actual scary stuff and the damage. But one of the things that really frustrated me the most is we threw out everything in our fridge, naturally because it was bad, probably, um. And I went to costco and the costco line was like it was like 45 minutes long and so it sucked to wait in that line. But big shout out to everybody working at costco because they were on it like they were restocking, they were getting people through, like they crushed it yeah, but I.
Speaker 2:It was like holy cow, this is. It was.
Speaker 1:The line was out of control but now that you mentioned it sorry I also have to say a pit beneath okay, katie, you're pit within a pit since we had such horrible weeks compared to what other people went through.
Speaker 2:We really, yes, we made it out very lucky but I got food poisoning oh, that is true, that is true such a bad pit shout out to the marco's pizza in charlotte that probably gave you guys.
Speaker 1:I won't go into detail, but it was rough that night. I forgot about that.
Speaker 2:I had to call out of work the next day. It was rough that night. It was a rough night. I forgot about that.
Speaker 1:I had to call out of work the next day. It was so bad.
Speaker 2:It felt like see, like when you have no power, like no internet and there's like the everything's kind of stopped, like the day's blended, like that feels like six weeks ago that you had food poisoning.
Speaker 1:I know that's why I couldn't remember, but that's all I had to say. That's all I'm going to say.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That was it.
Speaker 2:Okay, so into the meat of our episode.
Speaker 1:Yes, let's get to the fun stuff.
Speaker 2:This is going to be a lighter episode. This is just something that Katie thought would be fun and I agreed. I think this will be a neat little episode. So we're going to talk about the top five things we love from our wedding and the top five things we did not like about our wedding.
Speaker 1:We did not love, yeah.
Speaker 2:And so to clarify, this is not about like, of course, like the best thing in our from our wedding is like Katie and I are now sacramentally married and like we love each other. Like, of course, those things are all very nice. This is about the actual the day of the things from the wedding that we did or didn't like, not necessarily like the, the beauty of the sacrament of of marriage yeah, like objective, firm things that we planned or did not plan to do, yes, yes, that we liked or did not like and to our lovely parents who helped put it on and plan it.
Speaker 1:We loved our wedding overall, it was the best day ever we think about it all the time, but these are just fun little things that we Just like fun stuff that I wish I had like heard from other people, like I always wanted to hear what people loved and didn't love, and like what worked and what didn't work. And this is just our honest feedback from our day.
Speaker 2:So if you are not married and listening, these are something to look forward to or to think about. If you are a married listener, I would say that this is a fun experiment to like go back with your, your spouse, and just talk about your wedding day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, let's dive into this.
Speaker 2:Let's get into it.
Speaker 1:OK, yeah, so we're going to count down. So I start with the bad.
Speaker 2:Do you want to go first? Yeah, so we're going to count down Should we? Start with the bad. Yeah, okay, we can start with the bad and then, like I think, I'll say my number five, and then you say your number five, and then we'll go down.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like back and forth yeah.
Speaker 2:And so we did rank these. So like, starting off with number five, like eh, this was okay, but it's whatever With. If I could go back, this is the thing I would change.
Speaker 1:For sure. Okay, and same with what we love Like number one is going to be like the thing that we loved the most.
Speaker 2:If we could have only have done one thing. That's what we would have done Outside of actually getting married.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we don't know what the other had said.
Speaker 2:Yes, we're going in blind.
Speaker 1:Not knowing, and I wonder if we're going to overlap on a couple of.
Speaker 2:Okay, so number five for me of things I did not like. I thought there was too much time in between our wedding and our reception. Now we're at the mercy of when the church lets you get married, especially if you're Catholic. They like most of the times you're getting married on a Saturday, or even we got married on a Friday. They really are a little, you know, particular about the times because a lot of often they'll have a five o'clock mass. So that was one piece of it.
Speaker 2:But, like I think we also took a lot of pictures, which I know the pictures were beautiful, but one of the things I like I've noticed this at a lot of weddings we've been to like we didn get to enjoy the cocktail hour and I want to be a part of the cocktail hour. Like I know we're supposed to have some big grand entrance, but like and this will actually tie back to one of the things I did like but we didn't even get a chance to like eat some of the fun snacks your mom prepared and stuff like that. And like part of the wedding for me is like I want to interact with everybody who's there. It's literally a room full of my favorite people in the world, but half the time I don't actually get to interact with anybody.
Speaker 1:So that's number five, hot take.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, not a hot take on my end. I feel like that's a hot take on your end.
Speaker 2:Yes, I do too.
Speaker 1:Because I feel like the wedding, like the reception, is definitely like it's fun to be a part of as a bride and groom, but it's also something you put on for your family and friends. So I, on the other hand, had no expectations of really being a part of anything.
Speaker 2:No, I know.
Speaker 1:You got to choose your battles. There's not enough time of the day.
Speaker 2:I know it's in like, especially for the girls.
Speaker 1:it's like jam-packed you've never really liked, like the the taking the pictures and all that stuff like I am very grateful for all the pictures and footage that we have we have because I probably have four thousand pictures exactly, and we look at three of them no, we don't you every year we sit down. Well, it's more of the videos. We sit down and watch the raw footage of our wedding.
Speaker 2:You love it too, and actually you probably don't know this, but like two or three weeks ago, I like woke up earlier than you one morning and just laid in bed and looked at all the photos.
Speaker 2:See, you're so guilty, I know, but like the, photos I looked at were like I didn't look at the photos of us in a field because I don't care about, like I look at us every day. I don't like look at the you know the venue and everybody getting ready, like that was more fun to me than like, wow, another golden hour. Picture of us in a field.
Speaker 1:Whoa, yeah, that's just for the aesthetic that's home decor, right there All right, you're number five. Okay, number five for me. I wished this is something we didn't have and I wished we had like a shuttle or a party bus yeah we did not have that. We just, I think we were just like decision fatigued by the time that it was time to make that decision and we were, like we'll be fine, like I don't want to spend the extra couple hundred dollars for this and this will go back to actually one of mine that's later on in the list.
Speaker 2:But I also think we were not like tight on budget, but I think we were like trying we were trying to like all right, do we really need this? But also, in hindsight, what was the? Our reception was what? Seven minutes from the church, we very easily could have gotten like a shuttle for everyone. Yeah, you know, and that would have been cool, because I do remember I think parking was kind of tight.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I and I feel like the party bus is fun, like with your bridal, like we had an awesome crew with us yes, we did we didn't really get to like hang out with all of them together. You know we had a big, big wedding party.
Speaker 2:We I think, our wedding party. If you include the um, uh, why can't the cord and veil? Oh, yeah, our wedding party was I forgot we did that uh 26, including us yeah, yeah shout out everybody in our wedding.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, number four for you.
Speaker 2:Number four for me. Hang on, Sorry, my phone went dark. Number four for me. So this is a personal, not a personal thing, but this is just on the guy side. We didn't do anything that morning, Like I think we just went to like Waffle House and like I know the girls have to get ready and I think what time did we get married? Like 2, 30 I think.
Speaker 2:I don't remember yeah, I don't remember, I think it was either 2, 30 or 3 like the girls you guys were getting ready at, like I don't know, five o'clock or whatever. It's crazy. But like the guys, we didn't do anything and like I don't know, like I didn't want to go play like 18 holes of golf. But I wish we had done something and instead we kind of, like you know, went to waffle house and just sat around and that felt I don't know looking back on it.
Speaker 2:I'm like this seems kind of lame. Yes, and I'm a very anxious you need to do something, yeah like I'm a very anxious person. Like right before events I get very anxious and so I was just anxious, just standing around waiting and like it wasn't their fault. But we ended up waiting on like one of the photographers for something, so like a lot of it was just us doing nothing and I wasn't a giant fan of that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that makes sense. Can't relate.
Speaker 2:But I know, yeah, you had different problems, but anyway, you're number four.
Speaker 1:So number four of the things I did not love. I wish we had done a lot of like the speeches at the rehearsal dinner.
Speaker 2:Well, we didn't do any speeches at the rehearsal dinner.
Speaker 1:Exactly. I wish we had done them.
Speaker 2:The toast.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like the toast and stuff.
Speaker 2:Why I feel like people do toasts at the wedding.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, I know people do it either way, but now that we've been to a couple of weddings where they do it at the rehearsal dinner, I see the benefit of having more time at your reception to do the things like dance and have fun and eat. And like we just had a lot and it was really important to me to have all these things that happened before during our reception, but I just felt like we didn't have enough time to like dance and like party and yeah, yeah, but I loved every second of that like the toasts were very funny.
Speaker 2:My sisters were hilarious. Your sisters had like three pages of notes and were incredible, and my two on like a show for everybody. Yeah it was. It was literally a performance and it was amazing. And then my two brothers they told me afterwards they might even set in their toast. They were like thinking about it on the way over. They're like, hey, do you have anything? And the other one was like, uh, no, not really you. And he's like I've been thinking about it a little bit but not really like all right cool.
Speaker 2:So like I think uh, ali and nicole's toast was what probably I don't know 15 minutes or maybe even around then, and my two brothers I think combined were four, maybe even less than that and guess what? It was perfect.
Speaker 1:We loved it yeah, yeah, but yes, I see what you mean. I see what you mean. I love that. Everybody could have experienced it. I just, maybe it was just like my anxiety, like we were just sitting around and I was like anxious to start like mingling, you know, yeah, that's very true, okay.
Speaker 2:All right Number four.
Speaker 1:Number three for you.
Speaker 2:Number three.
Speaker 2:For me, I think this is one we're gonna disagree on.
Speaker 2:I felt very rushed the morning after now or you're gonna agree that you felt rushed, I think but we ended up staying the day after our wedding and left two days after our wedding to go on our honeymoon because we had family in town and so we saw our family and we were rushed because during the time it was COVID excuse me and we had to get a COVID test and so, like, the only COVID test that would take us was like eight in the morning.
Speaker 2:We didn't get to our Airbnb after the wedding at like I don't know midnight or you know it was late, and so, like we just like didn't sleep a lot because you know, you have all this adrenaline, you're're so excited, and then we had to like wake up super early and then the whole day we were literally just like running around visiting family, which was awesome, but part of me wished like we had just left, like gone to a hotel I don't know it was cool, the airbnb but part of me wished like we had basically left immediately after the wedding. And it kind of continued because it was a weird buffer day where it's like we're not on our honeymoon, but we're now married.
Speaker 1:I don't know yeah and I just felt rushed, I don't know yeah, I don't really know if I would have changed it, though I know you loved getting to see your family.
Speaker 2:I did and I loved, not that I hated it.
Speaker 1:I loved the airbnb. You're just like a go, go, go kind of guy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I need like built in breaks and rest periods.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, I could agree with that. What's your number three?
Speaker 1:Number three I didn't love making seat assignments.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:That was annoying.
Speaker 1:I had forgotten a few people and I just remember rushing to text my parents and be like will you tell Uncle so and Aunt so that they're sitting here, and then I still felt like it wasn't right and it all just didn't go the way that I wanted to, and I don't think it really mattered in hindsight. Like maybe we would have planned to have everybody at the like. Those of us at the head table would have been reserved, but everyone else could have free-for-alled. So that was not my favorite, but not the worst thing.
Speaker 2:That checks out. I feel that.
Speaker 1:What about you?
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:What about your number three?
Speaker 2:oh well, now it's. Now it's my number two. Oh, I thought you were asking me like what do I? What were my thoughts on the seating arrangement, and I agreed that's. It's like I I have never been to a wedding you've been. Like I wish I had a seat, like a specific seat, like I feel like it's a lot better just to be able to I don't know, uh, like just kind of grab a seat, grab your food, like I feel like weddings used to be a lot more formal than they are now agreed but all right.
Speaker 2:My number two, and this goes along with one of the things you said not enough time for dancing and it contradicts our dj was so nice.
Speaker 1:our d DJ was awesome and stayed like an extra hour.
Speaker 2:Everybody stayed an extra hour after our wedding. I think everybody said they were going to leave I don't know by like 9 or 9.30 or something, and I guess I don't know everybody was having a good time. I don't know what happened, but our videographer, photographer and DJ all stayed late Because we were like, no, everyone's having a good time. And DJ all stayed late because we were like no, like everyone's having a good time. Like nobody, like a lot of people hadn't left yet.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they weren't mad about it, it was fun.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was really cool, but just not enough time dancing. I think that goes to your point. Like we had a lot of things that were special and like even one of the things will be on the list of things I loved about our reception. But it also took up a lot of time until I mean, I don't know how to balance those two things. Hopefully I'm never getting married again so I won't ever have to, but uh, I just couldn't decide on like what to give up. But I do wish we had had more time just to party yeah, well, just have like an indian wedding like a week long I know, yeah, yeah, that would be awesome.
Speaker 2:All right, you're number two.
Speaker 1:Number two we got wedding favors and we still have wedding favors in our attic.
Speaker 2:Has anyone kept a wedding favor? Actually, I should have thought about this. Shout out to Mark and Emily they had the best wedding favor I've ever gotten at any wedding. It was a deck of cards. Yeah, like they're. I think they had.
Speaker 1:Like I like panic ordered them because people were like you got to do this and I was like I don't even want to think about it and I they were cute, but I don't even think people knew that they were wedding favors, like they didn't think they thought it was like decoration and just like left it there. So I have bunch of them and it's not like I can give it to people now.
Speaker 2:Well, I think didn't you order like we had, I don't know, maybe around 200 people at our wedding and I think didn't you guys order like 300?
Speaker 1:I don't know, I don't even know. It was so silly, they were pretty looking, but now, like I don't know what, basically they were just little like wooden candles with our initials engraved into them, and they were cute truly. But nobody knew to pick them up. And now I have so many of them and I don't want to throw them away because they are kind of sentimental to me. But also, what do I do?
Speaker 2:I'm going to just throw them away one day.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to tell you, they're just going to be gone. All right, my number one, and this is by far, I wonder if we have the same one. Oh, that's a good point. We'll see my number one. I bet it is, and this reminds me we have a task. By the way, we should have had a getaway car.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was my number one too.
Speaker 2:Yeah. We've been to so many weddings now where they've had like a cool getaway car and we just didn't like I, just again the same, like with the shuttle. We just did not want to make another decision. Yeah, and so I, we literally just drove away my dad's like I mean I don't know what is, it was probably like a 20, yeah it's a nice avvalon, it's a really nice Toyota Avalon.
Speaker 2:But I'm like why am I driving away in this car? We should have gotten somebody to drive us. It's really not that hard and we didn't go super far. We only went to, I don't know, maybe 30 minutes away from our wedding. So we really I wish we had done that.
Speaker 2:Because it took away, like you're in this magical day, everything it took away. Like you're in this magical day, everything feels like so crafted for you. And then, like we like, get in a car and just drive away and it feels like, okay, well, this is kind of weird.
Speaker 1:Yeah yeah. It was like so anticlimactic too, because we had I had a wedding wreath made and we put it on the car just to add a little extra pizzazz. It wasn't even in pictures, so nobody knows what I'm talking about. And we're driving on the interstate like just kind of in shock of like the day, and then we see like the wreath like flailing off a little bit and it was just so funny like oh no we have to pull aside.
Speaker 1:I I remember like the spot that we pulled over yeah, it was a guy. It was the gas station right off the I don't even think it was a gas station it was?
Speaker 2:it was the exit 91 gas station.
Speaker 1:I swear it was just like the side of the road so clearly. Apparently one of our memories is wrong, but we, like, had to pull oh no, you're right, we did initially, we.
Speaker 2:We did initially. It was on the side of the road, wasn't it? We did initially pull off. They were doing construction on that exit and we like, yeah, you're right.
Speaker 1:Because I every now and then go down that road and I'm like there, that's the corner.
Speaker 2:There it is.
Speaker 1:And we had, to like, take the wreath off because it was stressing me out. So, yeah, would have ended the night a little bit more magical.
Speaker 2:So, all right, that was the five things that we didn't love. All right, but don't regret necessarily.
Speaker 1:It was still a great day number five things that you loved.
Speaker 2:Yeah, now this is the fun stuff.
Speaker 1:Now we get to talk about the things we love, which, honestly, I wish we had more than five. Do you want me to go first? Yeah, you go first, number five I loved that we wrote letters to each other.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:I do too.
Speaker 2:I did forget about it. I just loved that.
Speaker 1:It was just because early on in our relationship I really and I still struggle with communication, but like it's better now obviously. It is much better, but when we first started dating, like I really had a hard time communicating my feelings to Joe and so I would write letters to him, because that was like a safe space for me to like sit down and really think about what I want to say and like write it all out on paper. And anyways, I just used to write him a lot of notes and letters.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And so it just felt really sentimental to like do that together and like read, like, read like this one last letter before we start marriage.
Speaker 2:It's funny On our wedding day. I can't. When's the last time you've written me a letter?
Speaker 1:That was probably the last time it might have been.
Speaker 2:Now you're like I get it now. We're fine.
Speaker 1:I can tell you anything and I don't need to think about it that hard.
Speaker 2:So that was really special and we had it like in the video so we can hear it, our letters every year when we listen. Yeah, that was so I this actually didn't make my list, but I it should have Cause the. I would say the thing we look back at most is that our wedding video.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's like edited and it's really good, and I can't remember her name, but she did an incredible job. Um and shout out that's should have made my list and it didn't, but the video we have, where we have like it's the full, us reading our letters, was really cool yeah, maybe if I can trace all of our steps and remember what we did, but I'll put all of our vendors too, if you guys are interested.
Speaker 2:Heck, yeah all right number five for me. I just thought this was really cool. Is your mom made all that lumpia?
Speaker 1:for the appetizers.
Speaker 2:She's gonna love that you said that and I just thought that was really cool. And still to this day sometimes people talk about it and ask, like, how do we get some of that?
Speaker 1:like some more lumpia. Mom made 500 something. 500 something. Lumpia what's lumpia Katie? So lumpia is like I would say, the egg rolls of the philippines yes um, I think they're better than normal I could not agree more it's just like exactly what you think an egg roll is, but with like different filling.
Speaker 2:It's like a lot more salty and like it's ground pork and carrots and onions with soy sauce, I think. Is there a little fish sauce in there, maybe? And then it's instead of wrapped in like a thick wonton paper, it's like a real thin and you dip it in like a sweet chili sauce yeah, and it's so good and everyone loved it.
Speaker 1:And now mom is gearing up to do it all over again for my sister's wedding. So stay tuned.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, she's always got like 200 in the freezer just ready to go. So all right, katie, your number four thing you loved about our wedding.
Speaker 1:Okay, I loved that we walked, or I walked, down the aisle with my parents and I loved that your parents were there.
Speaker 2:So I will spoil that. That's actually my number two.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:So you go ahead, though you go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't feel like a lot of people do that. Usually the dad will walk down the bride and it's just the groom and the front. But it was so cool, like the visual and like kind of the metaphor of me walking arm in arm with my parents and my dad.
Speaker 2:this was like his first sacramental wedding that he was doing because he had just became your dad, is a deacon and he married us yes, he married us.
Speaker 1:It was the first wedding he'd ever done, so it was just really special. He was like all in his garments, um. And then I was in the middle and my mom was on the side and like just and I walked down with my parents yeah, you did too, but and it was cool that, like I was walking, people cared a lot more about you.
Speaker 1:You walking down the major me you were, but your parents were behind you, and like that was just a really like. That visual is just ingrained in my head forever. Like seeing you with your parents in the back and like it was just like the families coming together. And then, of course, like we're in a catholic church, so, like the crucifix is behind, you're in front of the altar, like god just felt, like he was everywhere, like wrapping his arms around so that's families.
Speaker 2:So the way I had it was the meeting of the families. Yeah, at the like down the aisle. I just thought was really cool because, like, it is so much more than just you and I joe's getting I know getting emotional right now getting emotional. I love it like it's more than just the the meeting of you and I. It's it is truly the meeting of our families and like like it's cool that like our parents hugged yeah, like that was just so special sheds tear literally he's shedding tears I haven't shed it yet.
Speaker 1:It's welling um, and it was just I don't know.
Speaker 2:It was really special and something I'll remember forever so my number four I'm cheating a little bit and this is a two-parter um was the washing of the feet that we did at our reception. So katie and I washed each other's feet at our wedding reception before. I think it was maybe after we ate, before the dancing, I don't know. We loved it and that's part of like the my conflict because, like it took away a lot of time from but it was really the party.
Speaker 2:But I, I like really treasure that moment because it was really cool to do that after our wedding, like before the celebration.
Speaker 2:So I don't know how to what to choose yeah, what to choose over those two things, because, like, I should probably choose the washing of the feet, but I'm like I could listen to shout one more time, um.
Speaker 2:But the other piece, that kind of goes along with that and it's just the idea of like prayer, um is. So I was the first of like basically all my friends except one shout out Daniel, um to get married. And so, like my main group of friends from Clemson, it was like the first wedding and it started I think Kenton was the one who started the tradition of praying over the groom before we leave, and so we've done it at everybody's wedding now and we all pray over each other and it's just cool. Like it's a cool tradition that has happened in our friend group and you know, uh, it was just neat to like feel that, I guess, because, like I mean, we are, we are all Christian and we're all, like you know, we talk about our faith sometimes but for the most part we were just a bunch of idiot college guys hanging out in clemson and so like to have it become more faith focused, even in just that moment was cool yeah, yeah, I know your friends.
Speaker 1:It's so funny like watching you guys get serious which is very rare.
Speaker 2:Usually we're just recounting the same four stories over and over again and I'm just laughing like I haven't heard it before I know they You're so good.
Speaker 1:All right, number three this is where I think we're going to start overlapping. Probably Because I also said we already overlapped, yeah, but I'm sure the next three are going to be the same All right, go ahead. Washing of the feet. I thought that was a really special thing we added in there. Yes, mr LaRosa, mrs Polly, like they're good family friends.
Speaker 2:He's also a deacon.
Speaker 1:He's also a deacon. He I don't even I didn't even talk to him in person, like Ms Polly just asked him and then he just went with it and he had this whole thing prepared. Like I was honestly in shock when he was doing it at our he made it like a ceremony it was like a full ceremony. He was reading this reflection on the importance of washing of the feet.
Speaker 2:I think he blessed the water in front of us.
Speaker 1:I don't even remember. I still have the thing that he read because I thought it was really special and I was just like, wow, you just made this so special. I didn't even give you any expectations or instructions and you went with it and you like loved us enough to like do this for us and I just felt like really loved by, like him and like our community. And then I also felt like it was just a really humble way to like start our marriage, because we just literally sat there like washing each other's feet in front of all of our family and friends. So that was really special and the vase in the bowl too.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, like even that, like that was really special.
Speaker 1:The vase and the bowl too. Oh yeah, even that.
Speaker 2:That was what your grandmom Jackie's no, I think it was grandmom Pat.
Speaker 1:Oh, you're right, Grandmom, pat's grandma, or mom who made that?
Speaker 2:I think it was my mom's grandmother had made that for grandmom's wedding. I don't know. Yeah, it was passed down, yeah.
Speaker 1:So that was cool, and then we also got to incorporate some like Filipino traditions in the ceremony.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's probably not just Filipino traditions, I think other cultures do this.
Speaker 2:No, a lot of people have done the cord. I think it's actually a Catholic tradition that is just really popular in the Philippines. The cord and the veil.
Speaker 1:So we did something called the cord and veil.
Speaker 2:Wait.
Speaker 1:Philippines, so we did something called the cord and veil.
Speaker 2:Um wait, is this your number three or your number two? No, it's two in one.
Speaker 1:I know I did a two in one, yeah you did so the cord and the veil, it's just like all right, I guess our equivalent of the unity candle, you know like we had two people that were important in our lives wrap this big veil around the both of us, and then to another two people that were important in our lives who, like, wrapped us, like with a cord, like a really special cord, and, um, it just signified like our unity, and like our unity to god, um, and so it was cool that we got to incorporate that, because that's not something that we see a lot these days in weddings it was very tasteful.
Speaker 1:The filipino aspects incorporated in our wedding, I felt like, were very tasteful, yeah yeah, um now as I our wedding I felt like were very tasteful yeah yeah, yeah, now, as I'm like talking, I'm thinking of like all these other extra things that we did that I want to talk about too, but we don't have time, all right.
Speaker 2:My number three and I don't think you'll have this was our music choices.
Speaker 1:Ooh.
Speaker 2:Did you choose the music? Or did you just kind of tell him this is the vibe? No, uh I chose every song um, except for you, of course, chose your wonderful walking down the aisle song, but shout out to our producer, slash, friend slash, resident house musician justin and his wonderful wife, um, who did the music for our wedding? And the the best was probably um, justin's wife emily.
Speaker 2:Uh, what went to juilliard and is like a classically trained musician and singer and she sang ave, maria and justin. He played it on the guitar right yeah and it was absolutely beautiful. He played it as a communion hymn and it was she did and she crushed it.
Speaker 1:I mean amazing, like I still think about it to this day chills at our wedding and then to be able to like walk around the altar and like offer flowers up to mary and offer um like a crucifix up to saint joseph joseph was less like I don't know. It felt like it was cool.
Speaker 2:And then I mean, we got to hear the absolute banger of bangers.
Speaker 1:Here I am lord joe's one request. He said I want here.
Speaker 2:I am because because justin said he wouldn't play on eagle's wings at a wedding joe is like the biggest fan of 2000 hymns if you, if I could just listen to. Uh, here I am lord and On Eagle's Wings. On repeat.
Speaker 1:I'd love it.
Speaker 2:On Eagle's Wings. Yeah, I'm not even going to sing it. All right, your number. We're going super long, Sorry, guys. Okay, number two.
Speaker 1:So we didn't do a first look, but we did go to the chapel together. I went behind Joe's pew. It's the Adoration Chapel at the church we grew up in and we got to talk to each other and pray with each other before the wedding and that was just the most. I don't know, like the calm before, like the chaos I'm surprised that's not so. That's my number one oh well, you're gonna laugh at my number one. You're gonna be like you said we weren't gonna do that oh, did you?
Speaker 1:I don't like her but that was that was really, really special and, yeah, we have some pictures of us in there.
Speaker 2:There's a great picture of just the two of us, like sitting, you know, katie sitting behind me, and I don't really like that picture. Yeah, um, and it was just. It was a really special moment to be able to not see her, but know she was there.
Speaker 1:She was there Wow.
Speaker 2:But to know you were there and like to. I know like it was like the letter, but times 10.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh yeah, that was really awesome. I'm glad we did that OK here's number two.
Speaker 2:So we've already said my number two and number one. So my number two was the uh, the meeting of the families. Like that was just really special to me.
Speaker 2:Your dad did give me he said it was your insurance information about this forever yeah, so he we're like my dad is a goofball so we're all like we're walking down the aisle, like I mean, we're in the, like we're about to get you know, we're already started like it's everything's in motion, and he hands me this giant envelope and I'm like what is this? And he's like it's katie's insurance information and I'm like this is important, like I need to keep this. Meanwhile, I'm like what is like now? I'm like right what even is that insurance and like what's so important about it?
Speaker 2:But anyway, my dowry, yeah, basically, and it turns out, it was his homily, which was awesome. Yeah, he was being goofy about it, but like I'm hanging on to this envelope the whole mass and I'm like I don't know what to do with it. That was so funny and then my number one was the being in adoration together.
Speaker 1:Okay, so you're number one. My number one was um just being able to celebrate the mass with our family and friends. Like I told you that we couldn't do that you meant but but okay, in my defense, you don't have to have a mass for a catholic wedding, like you can do whatever you need to do but uh, we chose to.
Speaker 1:We both were like a pretty devout catholics, our families are, and it just only felt right and yeah to be able to share that with our family and and our friends like, who aren't catholic, like they know that that's really important to us. Um, it was just like being able to share, like a piece of heaven with and I think you love it was it was.
Speaker 2:I think our wedding as it was was a perfect representation of who we are as a couple and I think that's like, in a meta sense, that's my favorite thing about our wedding is.
Speaker 1:I felt like it was really true to who we are.
Speaker 2:Yes, and I think that one of the cool things about like like, a lot of our friends have gotten married and everybody's wedding has been so different to them but it has fit who they are and I think that's really cool to see yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 1:I even like wrote in our um what's it called our pamphlet pamphlets, like I wrote, like well, we wrote something to everybody about how, like nothing truly else matters to us except for the fact that, like they're here with us, like the ceremony honestly was like the most important thing to me, like I wanted to be able to share that piece of heaven with yeah everybody, so that just all right.
Speaker 2:Well, katie's favorite thing was the mass, so she wins I wasn't trying to outdo you. So those were our five things. That was it.
Speaker 1:That's what we loved and what we didn't love yeah. But it was a special, special day regardless.
Speaker 2:So for our marriage meeting real quick because we've gone long.
Speaker 1:But they're dying to hear the marriage meeting, so take your time.
Speaker 2:I know, so I'm actually going to put it back on you, katie. What did we do last sunday? We saw the ravens win katie, what was it like to? This was your second football game ever attended and probably your like eighth football game ever watched before yes, what were? Your thoughts I loved it wow, what did you like about it?
Speaker 1:I. I just, joe knows like. I just didn't grow up watching football so I've never understood the hype about it. Like people are diehard fans, my husband included.
Speaker 2:I would say, like my faith and you and my family. They're all like very very important to me and like a not very distant second. It's the.
Speaker 1:Ravens Sometimes in the not best way if they're not doing well, but you know, when they're doing great, we're doing great. So I was a bit nervous because I just know how Joe gets when we lose.
Speaker 2:And the Bills were good.
Speaker 1:And they were. Apparently it was a close game.
Speaker 2:Well, it wasn't. At the end, we crushed them.
Speaker 1:Okay. But it was thought it was going to be a close game, um, but honestly, like just being there was so fun, like the energy was contagious, like everyone was so excited. I find it so hilarious how like fans just come together, like when something goes right on the field. Everyone's like each other, high-fiving each other.
Speaker 2:Total strangers are like. I love you man.
Speaker 1:Literally and I like I loved that about it, like I loved being able to like get hype and like rally together about something like this and like really have something to like root for. And I honestly just paid better attention watching in a stadium versus like on our living room couch.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like. Well, I mean honestly, there's less distractions because the only thing to do is watch the game. Exactly and like they've got all these fun things to like keep you entertained, which works for me During the like most football fans are like all right, I don't really care about all, like the little, like the oh, oh, this person. You know, please clap for this person, or you know which is. I mean, it's all really cool, but you know most people are like just let's just get back to football and Katie's like wow, like that's a really neat story for that person.
Speaker 2:Or like, wow, I love that little game they just played.
Speaker 1:Or like well, because I feel like when you watch football, it, football, it's just so much commercials. And I just zoned out real quick. So that was fun and we got to. Our seats were upgraded because you have a good friend I do shout out morgan plant.
Speaker 2:He probably has no idea we have a podcast, but he he let us sit by him.
Speaker 1:So we went from being up in the upper deck, upper, deck down.
Speaker 2:We were like.
Speaker 1:We were like 12 rows away from just the front that was so cool, it was awesome so yeah anyway, the people just wanted to know you know your experience experience, or my second experience, yeah, yeah, to be well, never mind I was gonna say tbd whether I'm a fan, but I am a fan like you better.
Speaker 2:Wow, that was a good time. Come on, you had a great podcast you're gonna end it until until we lose.
Speaker 1:Then katie hates the ravens because it makes me sad so well, sorry this was long, but I it was a fun episode I enjoyed talking about it, I enjoyed recapping our wedding and, as always, let's keep growing together, bye y'all. So so Thank you.